Why I Still Teach Sex After All These Years

A heartfelt letter from Nina about legacy, truth-telling, and why this work still matters

People sometimes ask me why I still do this. Why I still talk about sex. Why I keep answering the same questions. Why I keep showing up for workshops, for one-on-one sessions, for quiet conversations that often begin with shame.

The truth is simple. Because the need is still there. Because the silence is still loud. Because the shame is still sticky. Because the misinformation is still everywhere.

And because every time someone says, I have never told anyone this before, I know I am in the right place.

I Teach Because Sex Is Not the Problem

Sex is not the problem. Ignorance is. Shame is. Fear is. Disconnection is.

Our culture teaches people how to perform, but not how to feel. It teaches anatomy, maybe, but not attunement. It shows endless images of sex but rarely teaches how to stay present during it. It glorifies confidence but punishes honest confusion.

I teach because most people never got the sex education they deserved. And they still want it. At fifty. At seventy. After divorce. After transition. After trauma. After decades of pretending.

It is never too late to learn how to come home to your erotic self.

I Teach Because Sex Is Part of Health

Touch is not extra. Pleasure is not a bonus. These things are part of how the nervous system regulates. How the body feels safe. How people experience being wanted, welcomed, and real.

I am a nurse as well as a sex educator. And I have seen what happens when people are deprived of connection. When they live inside bodies they feel shame about. When they carry trauma without tools.

Sex, when it is conscious, kind, and consensual, can be medicine. It can help rebuild trust. It can help restore vitality. It can reconnect people to their own voice.

I teach because pleasure belongs in the health conversation.

I Teach Because People Still Whisper Their Truths

After all these years, people still come to me with the tender things. The awkward things. The scary things. The things they have never said out loud.

I was raised in silence too. I understand the weight of it. And I understand the relief that comes when someone finally says, Me too, or, That is not weird, or, You are allowed to want that.

I have heard thousands of stories. And I still listen like each one matters. Because it does.

I teach because people need safe places to speak. And be heard. And not be made wrong for what they feel.

I Teach Because the Work Is Not Done

We are making progress. We have more language. More visibility. More resources. But the work is not done.

Sex education is still often inadequate. Sex work is still criminalized. Queer and trans lives are still under threat. Survivors are still blamed. Fat bodies are still shamed. Aging bodies are still ignored.

We still need places where people can be seen in the fullness of their desire. We still need teachers who can hold the mess and the beauty without flinching.

I teach because I know how to do that. And because I am not done learning either.

I Teach Because I Believe in This Work

I have lived a full erotic life. I have made mistakes. I have grown. I have evolved. I have loved and been loved. I have seen what sex can do to people and for people. I have seen it harm and heal. I have seen it used carelessly and held with reverence.

I teach because I believe in this work. I believe in the power of telling the truth. I believe in the sacredness of the body. I believe that sex, when held with care, can be a path to liberation.

And I am not ready to stop.

With love,
Nina