Nina’s Note on “Open Monogamy” by Dr. Tammy Nelson

Recommended reading for those reimagining what fidelity, freedom, and connection can mean.

This book is for anyone who feels the constraints of traditional monogamy — not because they’re broken or bad at love, but because they’re evolving.

Dr. Tammy Nelson doesn’t come at this with fluff or fantasy. She brings decades of grounded, clinical experience and a deep respect for the nervous system, the human heart, and the messy beauty of desire. Open Monogamy offers real tools: communication practices, agreement-making exercises, and nervous-system-aware frameworks for exploring attraction, curiosity, and erotic expansion without throwing out trust or tenderness.

Whether you’re monogamish, polycurious, or just tired of relationship styles that feel more like obligation than devotion, this book can help you co-create something more honest — and more you.

What I appreciate most? Tammy makes space for the gray. She doesn’t prescribe or push. She invites. She names what’s hard. And she reminds us that integrity and openness aren’t opposites — they’re often twins.

This isn’t about being “more evolved.” It’s about being more honest, more skillful, and more aligned with how love actually lives in our bodies today.