Ms. Hartley has great rapport with young adults. In all of her University lectures she performs the magic trick of delivering vital, useful information about sex, sexuality and sexual expression in such a way that the students laugh as they learn. The lessons imparted are practical, universal and attainable. The students are always happy to have her back.
Today, issues of sexuality are in the headlines nearly every day. Conflicting messages, from our families, culture of origin, sub-cultures, friends and media, added to our personal experiences, make it very hard for young people to navigate the ever-changing landscape of interpersonal relationships. The smallest unit of “sex” is the individual. It’s vitally important that students be given the information they need to be safe in their explorations, honorable in how they pursue intimate contact with others, and adult in their negotiations. Good, healthful sex doesn’t “just happen,” or happen in a vacuum. It arises when the situation is correct: right partner, right time, right reason, and right place. That can only occur when individuals understand what they desire and then create a safe space for it to unfold.
I tell college students, “It’s better to graduate as a virgin rather than to have been involved with a sexual assault.”
I give permission to either seek out, or delay, sexual activity of any consensual kind, according to one’s needs, desires, values and goals.
Plus, lots of awesome safer-sex tips that actually work!